Castles In The Sky
Take your sword and your shield
There’s a battle on the field
You’re a knight and you’re right
So with dragons now you’ll fight…
Fairytales live in me
Fables coming from my memory
Fantasy is not a crime
Find your castle in the sky
~ Dj Satomi
Nothing contents a mother’s heart like the distant sound of chatter or laughter coming from the place where her children are playing. And nothing jump-starts a mother’s heart like the sudden shriek of discord coming from the place where her children are playing.
Sibling relationships are complicated. Mysterious. Maybe that’s because most siblings are polar opposites.
So, while it’s true that the work of children is play, it may also be said that the work of siblings is rivalry.
In a loving way of course.
Because aside from our parents, they are our first introduction to love.
They’re also our first introduction to conflict.
They are our first playmates.
And our first best friend.
Yep. Since the age of dawn or shortly there-after, let’s say since the days of Cain and Abel anyway, sibling rivalry has been a mainstay in family dynamics. It certainly was in mine and it is for my kids. I’m always suspect when people tell me they never rivaled in some way with their siblings growing up. Really? I can’t imagine what that’s like.
It’s not a bad thing; sibling rivalry. It’s a natural thing. Siblings are practice people. They help us understand who we are and let us know how we’re perceived by others. They help us find our limits and our boundaries. And when they’re not rivaling with us, they teach us about friendship.
Siblings get the first glimpse of our future through the dreams we share with them. They are lifetime confidants, the only ones who really understand the inner workings of their unique family dynamic. It’s the bond that keeps them together and tears them apart. The relationship between siblings is fickle. It can be fractured by the slightest of provocations just as easily as it can be mended by a few soft-spoken, intentional words.
If you let them, they will build it.
They might even build it together. ~ Kavst
Little do they know, while it definitely gets easier as they grow up, it also gets harder.
It’s complex.
Siblings. They are the keeper of each others’ secrets. The holder of one another’s dreams and may they always, always help each other build their castles in the sky.
Photo Credits #1-8: ©2013 KarenSzczukaTeich & Takingtheworldonwithasmile.com
Love this –siblings ARE practice people! We carry that sibling savvy to all our relationships.
thanks Karen!
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Thank you, Anonymous!!
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This one is close to my heart, Karen. Thank you. Great pics, too!
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Thank you, Anita! I’m partial to the pics too 🙂
I appreciate your reading & commenting.
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Aww – adorable shots! Life with siblings is awesome and I feel sorry for people who don’t have the love and rivalry of a brother or sister.
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Me too, Lady. Thanks.
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My favorite sound as always been listening to my children laughing together.
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Music to a mama’s ears, Heidi. Thanks for reading & commenting.
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As an only child I often find myself envious of my two daughters and the relationship they share. They are friends for life.
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Yeah, they will be Karl. Nice. Thanks for reading/commenting.
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Great pictures Karen. I don’t think my parents had the time to reflect on our relationships when we were young ( I am the second of five in eight years.) It was more about getting the work done, feeding and clothing us, getting us to school, etc. I was fortunate enough to be able to observe and appreciate the day to day joy in raising my children and watching their relationship change and grow. What a bonus and gift it is to now be able to do it again with my grandsons…oh what fun!
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Same here Julie. My parents are immigrants & were too busy making ends meet & finding their way. I too feel so fortunate to be able to catch these moments once in a while, appreciate them & record them! Thanks so much for reading & commenting.
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Great thoughts Karen.. certainly food for thought. My two are polar opposites in sooo many ways. I wonder if it because or the dynamic you describe here? Mom and Dad should be ideal ‘playmates’ as well so they see ideal ways to handle conflicts and ‘play nice’. Making our two best friends is a top priority with us, of course. As the years get longer, they are all they got, so to speak. ~ Another dynamic, other than the Laughter and Shriek of discord is the silence! Somebody is getting in trouble then. 🙂
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Oh Andy BEWARE THE SILENCE. I thought about putting that in too but that really could be a whole other post! Silence in my kids’ case could be deadly! One such time, too much silence for too long brought me to my bedroom where Noah 6 & Hannah 4 had slipped out of my view for way to long…. I found string tied and attached to everything from the bedpost to the bureau to the doorknob and closet. It was like a huge, elaborate (dangerous) web & when I asked Noah what he was doing he said, “Me & Hannah are building traps.” And when I asked what for he said matter-o-factly, “Hannah”. Yep. solicited her help to build traps she could get caught in. 🙂
I’m thinking it might be easier, less dangerous with two girls. Hoping anyway! Thanks for the comments!
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This is a lovely post, Karen. I love the “teaser” pic and then the finished product in the end. All of the pictures in between are just precious (the pots and pans, OMG!). Your children are so beautiful. Gosh, “little” Hannah is getting so tall! 🙂 My sister is 11 years my senior, so our relationship was different than those of siblings closer in age. But, I watched my best friend growing up with her brother only 2 years older, and it was just as you described. They are so close that when she moved with her hubby to Texas several years ago, brother and his wife followed shortly thereafter. It’s an amazing bond. Thanks for sharing with us! XOXO-Kasey in Cali
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Thanks, Kasey! I know every family is different but some of the exchanges are similar & I sure do hope Hannah & Noah are “close” when they grow up like the friend you described. I guess I just have to make sure I give them as much opportunity as possible to interact (in a pleasant way!). Hope all is well…..xoxox NY
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Hi Karen, this blog brought back so many wonderful memories, the photos are beautiful, l wish that Hannah and Noah could be little again, at lease Opa and l have great memories
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