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Do Over Again


Life is a series of starting over.

Do overs.

From the time we’re kids to the time we have kids, we reevaluate our situations and begin again.

When my kids were little and any situation would elevate emotions to a height of no return, I’d reach back into my own childhood and do what me and my friends did when we couldn’t agree on whose turn it was or who won. Admittedly, it was one of the last hopes I’d pull from my parenting bag of tricks but thankfully, it always seemed to work. I’d raise my hands up between them and say,

“Okay, let’s just stop and start over.”  

A new beginning.

Every January the opportunity presents itself, again. It’s the month of reflection, a time when most adults, start over. Millions of people ponder the previous year’s failings and contemplate what they want from the next year. We promise ourselves to do. Do this. Do that. Do more. Do better. Come next January, we’ll chide ourselves for what we didn’t do and once again the cycle and promise to do will repeat.

A wheat field with blue sky backgroundThis year I’ve decided to throw caution to the wind, go against the grain, mix things up a little and concentrate on things I don’t want to do. I’m taking a cue from a good friend of mine and a recent post she made over at SWM where her RES-O-LU-TION really resonated with me. Instead of bemoaning what I failed to accomplish last year or belaboring over what I want to do this year, I’m saving myself some grief, keeping it simple and picking three things to focus on that I don’t want to do:

  1. I don’t want… to fall into the same old traps. It’s a vicious, hurtful cycle, thinking maybe this time he or she or things will be different. No one is perfect we all deserve a second chance but chances are, after giving someone or something three or four, they’re not going to change. If you’re honest, true to your word and don’t treat people badly, you deserve the same. Life after all, is hard for everyone.
  1. I don’t want… to say “no” to opportunity because I’m afraid of what lies ahead. Yes. Okay. I’ll try it! Whatever it is. We are, to a large degree the creators of our own destiny and need to be responsible for the actions we take or don’t take to get us there. If you hide behind fear of the unknown, you will never know. I don’t want to not know.
  1. I don’t want… to be unkind. Brazen is wonderful but to be kind is key. In keeping with my promise to commit acts of kindness and because life as I said is hard for everyone and everyone could use a little more kindness in their life, I don’t want to be unkind.

It’s do over time again. Only this year I’m not going to concentrate on what I want to do.

Happy New Year to all!

What are your New Year resolutions?

Photo Credit #1 & 2: Google Images

  1. JJM
    January 13, 2013 at 11:52 am

    I resolve to eat more chocolate cream pie!


    • January 13, 2013 at 12:59 pm

      I will make an exception & second that resolution! In fact, I will make that chocolate cream pie!! xoxo


  2. January 13, 2013 at 12:26 pm

    I don’t make resolutions because of the fact that by February they are forgotten. It’s better to remember every day that we can do better.

    Lovely post.


    • January 13, 2013 at 1:00 pm

      Thank you, Lady. I appreciate your reading & comments. 🙂


  3. Karl
    January 13, 2013 at 4:32 pm

    I’m not much into new year resolutions either but I’m hoping to find more peace within myself.


    • January 13, 2013 at 6:40 pm

      I hope you do too Karl. I hope we all do. 🙂


  4. singleworkingmomswm
    January 14, 2013 at 1:09 pm

    Thanks for the pingback, Karen! I loved your post, and I love your “don’t wants”. Agreed with all of them, myself. It is going to be a wonderful year! XOXOX


    • January 14, 2013 at 6:07 pm

      Here,Here! Kasey. Agreed. It’s going to be a wonderful year. 🙂 xoxox


  5. January 16, 2013 at 11:01 am

    I like this approach, Karen. If you don’t mind, I might borrow it for myself. Happy New Year!


    • January 16, 2013 at 5:24 pm

      Thanks, YAW and be my guest!! Happy New Year to you & yours as well.


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